Doorways, Sadness, the state of me

Every doorway is a choice, every choice is a doorway.

This is a key piece of my personal philosophy. I am a result of my choices, as are you. I am, at heart, an existentialist, constantly searching for some sort of meaning, that I'm not even sure exists. I identify as a witch, I firmly believe that some magic is science that we don't understand yet. I also believe that visualization is a powerful tool that can appear to be magic, if our belief in self falters. Much like my relationship with my vanquished loved ones, my relationship with certain deities is quite conversational. I fully realize that they are representations of aspects of things that provide focus. I follow no defined path. The deities that call to me are from vastly differing pantheons, but quite a few of them are associated with doorways and crossroads. Anubis is usually associated with being the Egyptian god of the dead, but he is also the god of divination and doorways. Death was a doorway to somewhere else for the Egyptians, after all. Papa Legba is the Keeper of the Crossroads.
I speak to quite a few Voodou loa, but always Papa Legba first. I have a large Anubis tattoo, with a matching tattoo of Sekhmet. Most people assume that it's her sister, Bast. Bast is a motherhood goddess. Nurturing and caring. Sekhmet is a war goddess, goddess of wrath and vengeance. The only way to stop her vengeance is to mix beer with the blood she has released into the streets, so she drinks it until she passes out. Sekhmet is to remind me to slow my roll.

Doorways. Each is a choice. Doors can be opened to something new. Doors can be closed, to keep one hidden or sheltered. Doors can be opaque, translucent, or transparent, just like choices. Doorways are deeply mystical, to me. I speak in my head to Anubis and Papa Legba, to articulate needing help with choices.

I am deeply unhappy, and catastrophically unfulfilled, at this point in my life. I made the choices that got me here. I do not know how to get out in a satisfactory manner. I take care of my Grandmother. I am her only caretaker. I receive exactly zero income from this. I pay the bills from her social security, which leaves very little. I am poor. Devastatingly so. Several friends unexpectedly gave me money in December, which allowed me to get the final heaters that we needed for the winter, and restock basic pantry necessities. I am grateful beyond words. Truly. I am left, now with a series of choices, from here.

Do I find a job, to bring in money? (I am looking) If I find one, then I leave her alone for part of the day, putting her, my pets, and everything I own in danger. Her dementia is advanced. Also, I could face neglect charges if anything happens to her.

Do I focus on making my jewelry, and trying to sell it? Like anyone who makes things, I have stuff, still, collected over years, to keep creating. However, it doesn't seem to sell. I know that I'm supposed to keep trying, in the face of complete rejection of my craft. If I wear any of it, people ask where it came from, I give them cards. Nothing. I have sold a couple of pieces, but not nearly enough. I am going through the process of getting what I have out there on social media, again. Making things brings me some amount of peace. I can't start an Etsy store, because of money. I have to do everything by PayPal, which I'm okay with. I don't even have Netflix, because I can't guarantee having the $10 or whatever, in my account each month, I definitely can't do Etsy fees. I am looking for places to carry it, in boutique stores, but that requires gas money and such. Vending events needs upfront money. Unfortunately, and not melodramatically, food comes first, these days. There are many days a week that I never even get dressed, and I go nowhere at all.

I have tried to do the state and federal forms for all kinds of assistance, everything that's been suggested to me. I can't even fill out most of the forms, because a lot of the info needs to come from a woman who can't provide it. I need a lawyer, I guess? That needs money. Find my ombudsman? I've left messages and sent emails and I get no answer. Call this person...I promise that I have tried. I don't know why I can't make it work, I promise you that I feel really fucking stupid, so I don't talk about it much, anymore. The dismissive answers I receive feel really judgmental, sometimes. I'm aware that I'm failing horribly. I know I chose this, but now all of my decisions involve, fully, the welfare of another human, and now I feel just as abandoned as she doesn't. It's just like having a toddler that remembers being completely in charge for forty years, with zero concept of how much she has changed.

My personal life is fairly nonexistent. I feel like no one wants to really spend time with me. I can't really afford much, anyway, sometimes not even gas money. It's weird for me to contemplate how many people are leaving facebook. I understand the reasons, I do. But, then, those people will just be gone from my life, as it's most of my social interaction.

So, I'm looking for doors, and contemplating the consequences of going through them. My drug of choice, that brings me peace and clarity (and isn't a drug or a substance at all) is unavailable at the moment. I dance. A lot. Around the house and yard, which is great, but isn't what I need. I see exactly one person, other than my Grandmother or Mom, regularly. One of my oldest and most consistent friends. I try for once a week, to get that hug I know is coming. It costs me nothing but gas, and the smile I get upon arrival is everything, and is holding me together right now. It's not like I'm turning down invitations.

I know I'm sad. I know it's unpleasant. I'm doing the best I can from being squished between a rock and a hard place. I know my best isn't good enough.

I know.